Black Women Are Beautiful and the Most Hated
Trevor Noah's last message before leaving the DailyShow
Why is it so hard for people to realize that Black women are human, we are lovers, we are powerful and literally run the world (pun intended). It sounds cheesy but it is the truth!
Last night on The DailyShow it was Trevor Noah’s last episode. He thanked a lot of people, but he really thanked and praised Black women.
“If you truly want to know what to do, or how to do it or maybe the best way or the most equitable way, talk to a Black woman.”
He goes on to say while getting emotional,
“Black women can’t afford to fuck around and find out.”
Chilllleeeee, when I tell you that made me have a kool-aid smile. Although I am not surprised by his admission, he has always been a standup guy representing his black heritage and love for Black women. As much as I relished that moment my joyfulness did not last long. Here comes the oppressive, negative, mean-spirited comments from hateful people saying he had the nerve to fix his lips and praise unintelligent, ratchet, toxic unattractive beings. Then I got angry. I should not have considering I do not know any of these people personally but I’m sick and tired of the narrative that Black women are less than. I fell into the trap of one commenter who tweeted this:
@drew27_ “How silly. Can you imagine if someone said the same thing about Mexican or Asian women. This moron needs to take the race glasses off and appreciate people instead of color. Black women also raise the group of men that kill the most Black people in America.”
My response was not pretty. I basically said he needs to stay in his privileged little bubble and that he had no right to an opinion since he was not a Black man, thank God because we already have one idiot (Kanye), we do not need another one. I also said that his mother is probably embarrassed for having him. He could not come up with no other response other than “You sound like the privileged one.” I thanked him because I am, as well as a Black woman who is a mother and was raised by strong Black women. Trevor was raised by a Black woman, what is wrong with him praising and being proud of that part of himself? If he was any other race and praised his own, then I would salute to that too. It is their truth at the end of the day, right? But what is the obsession with hating Black women? Never have we gotten the love and respect that we deserved. This has been like this for so long that we have become tired and said fuck it we will do it ourselves.
I strongly believe the reason why Black women are against each other so much is because outsiders have made it their mission to feed this narrative of us being less than and we have accepted it. We are recognizing that mistake now and are working toward unity within us.
Similar to how I feel about Black men, Black women do not have that safe space to be vulnerable, feminine, and sexy without the fear of those qualities being abused and used against us. In the process of role switching, we have adopted the qualities that we consider a man to have - aggressive, cold-hearted and thick-skinned - unfortunately we did not ask for this task. I’m not blaming Black men so do not come for me. My point is we cannot live in that aggressive state 24/7; it is not healthy, physically, spiritually and especially mentality. A lot of us do not know when to shut that off.
As Black women we need to re-define what strength means since we have chopped and screwed what it’s definition. Strength is not always a physical thing. Strength is not:
Holding in the emotions that we have been spoon-fed to believe is a weakness.
Physically fighting someone just to prove a point.
Taking on everything believing that being a Superwoman is what’s up.
Not checking in on ourselves because we are too busy taking care of everyone else.
What strength is:
Loving yourself at every damn stage of your God given journey.
Giving yourself grace.
Crying, letting it out, or speaking to a therapist in order to be the best version of you.
Not responding to everything. Everything does not deserve your attention.
Uplifting another Black woman.
It is sad that when someone openly and publicly praise a Black woman we are shocked. It is a rare thing when it should not be, and yet in 2022 we are still here being mean as hell toward Black women from whites and our own community. With that being said let me give you a few examples of Black greatness.
Look at all of the podcasts ran by Black women. My favorite is Pour Minds. If you have not watched these young ladies on YouTube, where the fuck have you been? I have watched these lovely ladies come up and build something great and they are continuing to prosper in their journey. I’m here for all of it. Their podcast is hilarious and real as hell. Their topics deal with what Black women experience - relationships, friendships, a woman’s worth, health and sex, etc. They are authentic and you can tell they are genuine friends outside of the podcast. Please check out these Queens. Every Friday a new episode comes out on YouTube. I’m telling you, once you watch one episode you will immediately get hooked.
Whew this woman right here is a force to be reckoned with. Tamika Mallory is an author, a Black Queen and an activist. She is unapologetic, super intelligent and about her shit. People have no choice but to listen when she speaks. People have no choice to stop and admire this woman when she enters any room or conversation whether in a group of women or men; she holds her own and stands on what she believes in. Her intentions are clear, she is for the Black community. She knows her purpose and is fulfilling it whether people are watching or not. I swear she never sleeps, nor do I think she gets exhausted. I give a salute to this Queen.
Lizzo is a singer, entertainer and a bomb ass flute player and have taken the music game by storm. She is vulnerable, beautiful, talented and most importantly positive. She understands the assignment. I hate that this woman has been beaten down profusely for her size. She is a big girl but so damn comfortable in her skin no matter what! Never has she glorified being big. People love to complain that she is glorifying obesity though. If they paid attention, they could see that this woman is glorifying being happy in her skin no matter what size she is and there is nothing wrong with that. Keep doing you boo.
This lady right here is something else. I met her through Twitter and I’m glad that I started following this her. She is a writer, a mother and a gorgeous woman with a spirit to match. I don’t think she knows how much I love seeing her tweets and seeing whatever she got going on. She has showed me love and in the messy world of Twitter her presence is refreshing. She deserves whatever God has in store for her and I’m here for all of it. Please follow her on Twitter @vivithewritaa and tell her I sent you.
There is plenty of other woman I could mention but I would be here all day. But I wanted to take a little time to salute a few Queens. If other muthafuckas do not want to acknowledge us, then fuck them. They are missing out. We have proven time and time again that we are not a force to fuck with. People have no choice but to recognize us now. This is a perfect time for people to get onboard because we are coming. Our blackness is fucking beautiful.
Peace and Love